Archive for October, 2006

Halloween? More like Skank-o-ween

Monday, October 30th, 2006 | Chelsea Murphy

This is Halloween…trick or treat ’til the neighbors die of fright,” the famous song said. But, what it didn’t say is, “This is Halloween, every girl act a skank.” Why, then, is it such common practice for girls around our age to bare it all on this ghoulish occasion?

It is an interesting trend: Every year as we get older, more and more girls put on less and less clothing and call it a Halloween costume. They are French maids, pixies and that odd concoction of items that doesn’t really make anything. This last category is the one I find the most infuriating. It is nice to dress sexy, flash a little leg here and there, maybe a little cleavage. But, when someone throws on a bra and boy-cut underwear with a witch’s hat and claims wicked witch of the west, I have a problem.

We are all smart girls here at Wash. U. At least if you are going to wear nothing, come up with something that at least makes sense, like a lingerie model. Be straight with me; if you want to show off as much skin as possible, then at least admit it.

The most ridiculous part of all of this is that the same girls who dress in this manner are the first to get offended when someone thinks they do, in fact, look like a skank. If they really didn’t care and that was their purpose, they would just shake it off and that would be the end of it. Instead, these scantily clad girls get angry and pick fights, throwing their hips to one side, sticking out their overflowing cleavage and cocking their pigtailed heads to one side, mouth in a pout.

Unfortunately, in society, the way you dress is an advertisement of who you are; not that it is always accurate, but if you truly are dressing nearly nude because you enjoy it, then you have to be prepared for a backlash. As it was so aptly pointed out to me by a guy friend, “Just like when you run up to a cop for help, you don’t expect him to say, ‘Whoa, whoa, whoa, just because I’m dressed like a cop, doesn’t mean I am a cop’; you shouldn’t expect a girl who is barely dressed to say, ‘Whoa, whoa, whoa, just because I am dressed like a skank, doesn’t mean I am a skank.'” What reaction did you expect to get? It is giving off mixed messages.

What I am very clumsily trying to get at here is that what you wear, Halloween or not, is a reflection of who you are as a person. This goes whether you like it or not. If you don’t care what people think, continue to wear whatever you want. If you are not, however, able to let comments like “Slut” and “Skank” roll off your shoulders, you might want to rethink a couple of things.

I’m not saying I hate anyone who dresses promiscuously; I have friends who do so, even when it’s not Halloween. I’m saying don’t throw fits, start fights or cry if people misconstrue your sexy little number as an invitation. I respect anyone’s decision to dress as they want as long as they respect their decision as well.

So, here is my suggestion: Dress like a skank, come up with a clever title for the costume that actually makes sense and wear it with pride: no tears, no threats, no pouting. Happy Halloween!

Chelsea is a junior in the School of Art and a Forum editor. She can be reached via e-mail at forum@studlife.com.

Editorial Cartoon

Monday, October 30th, 2006 | Dmitri Jackson
Matt Rubin

The importance of teaching

Monday, October 30th, 2006 | Jerome Bauer

I read with interest the article in Student Life (“Climbing the Academic Ladder,” Sept. 27, 2006) well-written by the student reporter, Josh Goebel, but clearly reflecting the University’s point of view. This was most probably intended as a response to, “Students Protest Removal of Lecturer’s Job,” in the same issue (please see also “Lecture Positions Valuable to Students,” Sept. 29, 2006). As one of the affected Lecturers, I must respond.

The title, referring to an “academic ladder,” suggests a hierarchical, competitive model of academia, setting the tone for this “just-so story” propagated, ironically, by the two anthropologists quoted in the article. The Lecturer’s Policy, and the position of senior lecturer, is not mentioned, nor is the possibility of earning tenure for college teaching, until recently practiced by several top-rated schools (e.g. The University of Chicago, Washington University in St. Louis).

The article insists on the importance of the Ph.D. degree and notes that this may take from four to six years, depending on the discipline. My discipline, Indology, requires much more time. A degree earned four to six years after college graduation would usually not be taken seriously, because it takes much longer to achieve basic competence in the necessary languages. Even so, universities put pressure on graduate students in these disciplines to finish their dissertations too soon, leading inevitably to spurious, ideologically driven work, for the sake of quick academic success.

The Ph.D., even an honest one, is not strictly necessary. Some of the most distinguished professors at my alma mater, the University of Chicago, did not have a doctorate (e.g. Edward Shils, Helen Harris Perlman and Mortimer Adler). A doctoral program, although often little more than indoctrination or sycophancy lessons, may be valuable as a training program in professor craft and a test of one’s political skills. But any lecturer who has successfully performed the duties of classroom teaching and mentorship for seven years, or 11 years, does not need a Ph.D., and may be better off without one (although administrators of a Ph.D. factory such as Washington University are unlikely to admit this).

The article defends the value of “short term” non-tenure track appointments, in today’s competitive job market, but neglects to mention that here at Washington University, much of the real work is done by year-to-year contract lecturers who are strung along for years with no job security and no real career path and then terminated on a whim or a pretext, especially if they try to stand up for themselves. This is immoral and should be illegal. The academic competition extolled by the article favors people with certain personality traits, especially those incapable of relating to others in a non-hierarchical way. Many of the most successful Research Faculty and administrators are politicians of the worst sort: the ones who could never get elected. At least we can vote out of power politicians who don’t tell the truth or keep their campaign promises. In our universities, no such checks exist. Nevertheless, those whose true vocation is teaching persist, in, but not of, this cutthroat environment.

Our students need heroes, mentors who set a worthy example. Here are two of mine. First, the late David Hadas of Washington University, who never published anything but became a full professor here for his dedication to college teaching. Professor Hadas refused chemotherapy, lest it interfere with his teaching, and died halfway through a course on value formation. Second, Herman Sinaiko of the University of Chicago, who resigned from a powerful administrative position and took a steep pay cut to return to his job as college teacher in general humanities. His book, Reclaiming the Canon, consists of essays obviously based on many years of class notes.

I ask all Washington University administrators to consider doing likewise. Are your jobs really necessary? Do we really need so many deans, to administer a needlessly complex system? Please, open the curriculum and join us in teaching. You would be happier, and the students would benefit from greater choice. Let’s abolish departments in the college, to eliminate petty turf wars. Let’s give the college greater autonomy and grant tenure for good teaching and mentorship. Let’s keep unfit teachers out of our classrooms; let them stay in the library or laboratory. Let’s establish Washington University as a leader in cooperative education. And please, nobody ever pull rank on anybody else.

Jerome Bauer is a lecturer in religious studies. He can be reached via e-mail at jhbauer@wustl.edu.

Upperclassmen need to eat too!

Monday, October 30th, 2006 | Staff Editorial

If there’s anything distinctive about college, it’s the weird hours at which people function – suddenly midnight has become the new 7 p.m. and 1 p.m. seems like a normal time to start one’s classes and work for the day. This means that students often find themselves eating at irregular times. Eating the third meal of the day later at night is a regular occurrence and often times lunch falls in between classes and the beginning of homework somewhere in the middle of the afternoon. For some students this isn’t only a lifestyle choice, but also a forced phenomenon that results from packed class schedules from early in the morning until the afternoon. In general, Wash. U. has done a good job accommodating the odd schedules of students by having Danforth Campus lunch options like Subway or Whispers open into the afternoon and keeping places on the 40, like Bear Mart and Bear’s Den, open respectively until the early hours of 1 a.m. and 2 a.m. Despite the general successes of the Wash. U. dining options, there remain a few changes that could make eating more convenient for students.

The first of these changes would be expanding the hours of the dining hall in the Village. Though Village housing was originally made up largely of married and graduate student housing – a population with a potentially slightly more normal eating period – it has become home to more and more undergraduate students throughout the years.

Particularly this year, as a result of the University’s fall housing crunch, the Village houses a significant number of undergraduates who keep the same hours as those living on the South 40. The infiltration of undergraduates into the Village means more people hanging out in the Village and that hungrier students want food after 8 p.m. Sunday through Thursday. If the midnight rush at Bear’s Den is any indication, keeping the Village open later would be profitable for the University and also an asset to students who live on the North Side of campus.

Let’s face it, food is vitally important to late night study sessions and student existence in general, walking across campus to the South 40 in the middle of the night is extremely inconvenient, (not to mention cold) and it seems keeping the Village food venue open later would only benefit Wash. U. While providing students who live on the North Side an option for eating on campus late at night and in the afternoon is critical to many students, opening Bear’s Den or Bear Mart earlier in the morning would help other students. Though being open at this time may not be as profitable as other times because it isn’t a high rush period, there are athletes who really should be able to eat a solid breakfast before they go to practice.

Not only is breakfast “the most important meal of the day,” but for athletes who are burning a lot of energy, it seems especially important. The University should provide some place on campus where athletes and anyone else who might happen to be up at a normal hour on the weekends can eat breakfast. Though providing some food options in the morning is important because some students do have weekend lives that begin before lunch, it’s understandable that the University has been hesitant to do so. Extending the Village hours, on the other hand, seems like one of those rare ventures that would allow the University community to have its cakeand eat it too – past 8 p.m.

‘Feast:’ A smorgasbord of convention-bending horror and genre arrives on DVD

Monday, October 30th, 2006 | Daniel P. Haeusser

I never watched “Project Greenlight,” but from what I hear, it is a miracle that the venture of the third season, John Gulager’s horror film “Feast,” ever got made. Thankfully, it did, and after a brief, midnight run in select theaters, the film is available on DVD.

The plot and setting of “Feast” are simple and unravel like the start of a “Twilight Zone” episode (albeit one produced for the attention span of an MTV addict).

A diverse mix of characters mingle at a country bar when a distraught man, who is splattered with blood and brandishing a gun, bursts through the door and tells the startled patrons that something unfathomably deadly is out there, coming their way.

These deadly creatures (who zip over terrain in first-person camera views like the demons of “The Evil Dead”) turn out to be slimy monsters that feed on humans and procreate with the fervor of rabbits and the rapidity of bacteria.

The monsters arrive at the bar, the siege begins and the gore starts. As is typical for the survival movie, the humans are transformed in the confusion and carnage into something more sadistic and bloodthirsty than their grotesque attackers.

The exact origin of the monsters is never given – and ultimately it doesn’t matter. The film isn’t about plot but about style and creating an entertaining, gory exercise in genre. In fact, you may have noticed that the plot is identical to a standard zombie film, but with large alien creatures standing in for the undead.

Indeed, the film is all about excess: Relentless gore, waves of characters killed off, fast and jerky camera cuts amidst sped-up action and the need to subvert each and every horror clich‚ to the point that the film’s commitment to avoiding predictability confers a certain predictability in itself. This style of excess can be annoying at points (particularly the sped up action sequences where you aren’t sure what is going on beyond a vague tearing of flesh).

You’ve probably realized by now that this is not a film for everyone. I’d only recommend it to people who like low budget, gory horror films. Within that sub-genre I believe “Feast” is one of the better recent efforts. Too often I’ve watched a hyped-up, new horror film (i.e. one that is not a remake of a classic 70s film or an Asian import) and come out disappointed.

It may be because I went in with low expectations, but “Feast” did keep me entertained with its excess. The floods of blood and gore were precisely controlled to inspire shock, fear, or comedy depending on the situation – a feat I haven’t seen pulled off since “The Evil Dead” films.

Yet, “Feast” is still clearly the work of an amateur. While fun, the film does little to go beyond homage and genre experimentation. Ultimately, it is a warm-up for a director that may one day turn out his symphony of horror.

Finally, a few words on the players: “Feast” is populated with actors who are friends and family of the director, but there are a few names you may recognize. Jason Mewes gives a brief, amusing stint as “Edgy Cat” and the well-endowed Krista Allen (of Maxim Magazine, “Days of our Lives” and the newer Skinemax additions to the “Emmanuelle” exploitation films) turns in a great performance as an anguished single mother.

If you missed seeing “Feast” during the midnight movie series at the Tivoli, consider picking it up for some late night movie fun in your dorm or apartment, particularly if you only saw the chaotic start of it all on “Project Greenlight.”

‘Infamous:’ not just another Capote film

Monday, October 30th, 2006 | Daniel P. Haeusser
MCT CAMPUS

Infamous

Rating: 4.5/5
Directed by: Douglas McGrath
Starring: Toby Jones, Sandra Bullock, Daniel Craig, Gwyneth Paltrow

It is unfortunate that “Infamous” may lose an audience that feels they’ve already seen the film about Truman Capote. In actuality, Capote’s life and the events surrounding his writing of “In Cold Blood” could serve as source material for many great films with varying emphases.

I haven’t yet seen Bennett Miller’s “Capote,” which won Philip Seymour Hoffman a Best Actor Oscar. Everyone I have read or spoken to that has seen both films has told me that Douglas McGrath’s “Infamous” is the superior film. At the very least, I can assure that “Infamous” deserves an audience on its own merits.

Truman Capote was an icon of American literature and society in the mid-1900s and the author of numerous short stories, scripts and the famous “Breakfast at Tiffany’s.” His parents left him at a young age in Monroeville, Ala. with relatives, where he grew up with lifelong friend Nelle Harper Lee, the future author of “To Kill a Mockingbird.”

Capote’s parents divorced, and his mother, who dreamt of being a New York socialite, married a man who made her dream possible. Capote left Alabama for New York City, where through schooling and a start at The New Yorker, he pursued his desire to write. He was soon a tremendous literary success and a bright star of the New York artistic social circles.

“In Cold Blood,” his self-described masterpiece, began when Capote read a small blurb in the Times about a murder in rural Kansas. Herb and Bonnie Clutter and their two children were found shot to death in their farmhouse. No suspects or motives for the killings were apparent.

It is here that “Infamous” begins, at this monstrous turning point in Capote’s life. The Clutters were an affluent, kind and respected part of the Holcomb community and Capote was interested in how a small, quiet town would deal with the murders. Would the community close up, with everyone suspicious of their neighbor?

Capote left for Holcomb with Harper Lee (played amazingly by Sandra Bullock in “Infamous”), intending to write a short article, but the work ballooned into a full book as he was drawn deeper into the town and eventually the minds of the captured killers: Dick Hickock and Perry Smith.

“Infamous” works well in its juxtaposition of Capote’s life in New York and his visits to Kansas. In New York, he lives the equivalent life of Carrie Bradshaw in “Sex and the City:” an existence of frivolity, gossip, fashion and parties. In Kansas, he comes face to face with the psychological traumas of his past, and is caught between the conflicting needs of his personal sanity and the needs of his novel.

Toby Jones, who you probably recognize as the voice of Dobby the House Elf from the Harry Potter films, does a phenomenal job as Capote. Part of his success arises from how similar he looks to Capote and part of it is due to his fine acting. Jones pulls off the homosexual camp that Capote was famous for as well as the pain that came out through his connection with Smith.

“Infamous” indeed focuses on Capote’s unique relationship with Perry Smith (Bond-to-be Daniel Craig), with emphasis on a quote by Harold Nye, a Kansas Bureau of Investigation officer as quoted in George Plimpton’s oral biography: “[Capote and Smith] had become lovers in the penitentiary. I can’t prove it, but they spent a lot of time up there in the cell, he spent a considerable amount of money bribing the guard to go around the corner, and they were both homosexuals and that was what happened. I wasn’t there so.”

It is true that after meeting Smith, Capote realized how alike they were: both extremely short and both harboring feelings of paternal abandonmen. He understood they had simply walked opposite directions in life. But, as Harper Lee noted, his interest in Smith went beyond any infatuation or affair. Like a true artist, Capote’s used his pain and let it control his writing through that agonizing ordeal of creation that directs inward with sacrifice. Smith, never able to channel his anger into artistry, allowed it to flow outwardly and violently. Capote looked at Smith with deep empathy, seeing what he could have become.

With this realization, “In Cold Blood” became a psychological analysis of why the killers, particularly Smith, murdered the Clutters. “Infamous” shows the process by which Capote gained the trust and respect of Smith to be able to interview him fully and the high personal cost on Capote’s psyche. Capote was well-known for his exaggerations of the truth, his ability to get people to do exactly as he wanted and his purposeful creation of sympathetic public personas. The audience is never entirely certain how much of his relationship with Smith is genuine and how much is simply an end to the means of completing his masterpiece. It is probable that Capote wasn’t even sure of this, which resulted in his artistic collapse.

After an agonizing five-year period of court appeals, Hickock and Perry were hung and Capote’s “In Cold Blood” could be completed. Drained and forever changed, Capote never returned to writing, but fully immersed himself in social frivolity.

“Infamous” is a powerful film, but not without wonderful humor to alleviate the darkness. It is worth your time and money to see, even if you have seen “Capote.”

Football set to take on Carnegie Mellon for UAA championship

Friday, October 27th, 2006 | Unaiz Kabani

It all comes down to this.

After winning its first two University Athletic Association (UAA) contests, the Washington University football team looks to take the league title when it battles the Carnegie Mellon Tartans tomorrow at noon on Francis Field.

Carnegie Mellon has won its first seven games of the season by an average of 22.4 points and is tied with Wash. U. atop the UAA standings with a 2-0 record. Tartan head coach Rick Lackner attributes his team’s success this season to his players’ maturity.

“We have great senior leadership this year,” said Lackner. “The players are focused, coachable and we are getting the most out of them.”

But the Bears have defeated the Tartans in seven consecutive matches, including a 28-7 victory last year. According to Lackner, this is a golden opportunity for the Tartans to regain control of the conference.

“This game is really significant,” said Lackner. “The league has been dominated by Wash. U. and it’s been a while since we won league.”

The Red and Green’s ability to stop the Tartan’s ground game should play an integral role in the match-up. Carnegie Mellon leads the UAA in rushing and ranks sixth in the category in all of Div.III. The team’s ground game is anchored by junior running backs Travis Sivek and Robert Gimson, who are both averaging over 100 yards per game. The Bears, however, rank sixth in Div. III in rushing defense and 10th in overall defense. Wash. U. has allowed only one team to rush for over 100 yards in a game this season.

“[The Bear’s defense] is tough to exploit,” Lackner admitted. “Their linebackers are very active and they are very well-coached. We know they are going to be a major challenge.”

On offense, the Bears will likely try to take advantage of their own running game against a weak Tartan rushing defense, which gives up 123 yards per game. Expect running backs senior DaRonne Jenkins and junior Gabe Murphy to see plenty of carries. The Red and Green backfield will have to protect the ball, though, as Carnegie Mellon’s defense ranks 14th in Div. III in turnover margin.

“Wash. U. has a very veteran offense. Jenkins and Murphy are both excellent backs,” added Lackner. “But [the Bears] are well-balanced and can hurt you on the ground and through the air.”

Washington University has plenty of momentum after defeating Case Western University 13-7 last week to extend its winning-streak to a season-high three games. The Bears’ offense scored all 13 points in the first quarter, and the defense was able to hold on for the victory, allowing only 66 rushing yards and 194 yards of total offense.

After their duel with Carnegie Mellon, the Bears finish their 2006 campaign at home Nov. 11 when they take on non-conference opponent Greenville College (5-2).

Wash. U. hosts UAA championships

Friday, October 27th, 2006 | David Kramer

The Washington University men’s and women’s cross country teams will compete Saturday in the UAA championship meet. This year’s races are being held in Forest Park.

The women’s team, currently ranked 3rd in the nation, has claimed first place in each of the past four years and are expected to easily capture the title again for their 9th total UAA championship. Unfortunately for the women, three of its top harriers are battling injuries (serior Beth Herndon and juniors Kate Pentak and Tyler Mulkin). Last year’s UAA champion, Herndon, who is looking to earn all-UAA accolades for the fourth straight season, will most likely lead the talented women’s team.

The men’s team is coming off consecutive solid performances in its past two races. This race will be a huge test for the men, ranked 28th nationally, as they will be competing against two higher ranked teams in Carnegie Mellon University (ranked 19th) and New York University (ranked 3rd). The men are planning on upsetting at least one of those teams, according to cross country Coach Jeff Stiles.

“The men are realistically battling for 2nd. NYU is ranked 3rd in the country and deservedly so. If we run to potential, no matter what place we get I will be pleased. Our ultimate goal for the men is Nov. 11th as we try to qualify for NCAA’s for only the 2nd time in school history,” said Stiles.

This year’s conference race is the first important race the cross country team has hosted in the past few years. Red Alert is sponsoring the meet, which means that those in attendance wearing their Red Alert shirts have a chance to win prizes. The 6K men’s race is at 11 a.m. followed by the women’s 4k at noon at the Central Fields in Forest Park.

Separation Saturday: special edition

Friday, October 27th, 2006 | Andrei Berman

Thought the Cardinals were the only hot ticket in town this weekend? Think again. This year’s Parents Weekend coincides with a terrific weekend in Wash. U. athletics. Four Washington University teams are competing for league titles and each key match-up takes place on or within minutes of the Danforth Campus.

The exciting weekend kicks off Friday evening on Francis Field when the Bears women’s soccer team tangles with Brandeis at 5 p.m. The game has playoff implications, as the team looks to clinch the league title over the weekend. Immediately following the women’s action, the Wash. U. men’s team takes the field, also against conference rival Brandeis and UAA leading scorer Ben Premo. Though this game won’t directly affect NCAA tournament positioning, it could go a long way in determining the eventual league champ.

Late risers beware: Saturday’s athletic action gets going early. The UAA cross country championships get underway at 11 a.m. and since this year’s championship race is shorter in distance than normal XC races, both the men’s and women’s races should be completed shortly after noon. The meets take place in beautiful Forest Park.

Perhaps the premier on-campus sporting event of the weekend in terms of fan interest will be the men’s football game. The men are set to battle Carnegie Mellon University with the winner being named the league champion. Championship gridiron action kicks off at noon on Francis Field.

For those parents still in town on Sunday, both the men’s and women’s soccer teams will return to action at Francis Field. The women play at 11 a.m. against the Violets of New York University. The men also host NYU, with game action beginning at 1:30 p.m. NYU’s men’s team currently ranks first in the UAA, so an upset win could go a long way with regard to the Red and Green’s playoff chances.

Full coverage of many of these events can be found in today’s special edition of Student Life sports.

Romance 101

Friday, October 27th, 2006 | Laura Alexander

There will be lots of preparations for this weekend. Wash. U. will be planting an excess of flowers to distract from the giant holes/parking lots taking over the campus, professors will be prepping interesting and appropriate lectures for Friday and students will be stashing liquor bottles in boxes under their beds.

Parents Weekend signals the time for another preparation, too. It’s time to prepare for the next big step in your relationship: meeting the parents.

In college, we are lucky enough to postpone this nerve-racking experience for a while simply because many people’s parents are several hundred miles away from the Danforth Campus. In high school, you usually had to have that awkward first conversation when picking up your girlfriend for a date or just running into your boyfriend and his parents at the local grocery store. But now, you can date for months without ever thinking about the people who once changed the diapers of your significant other.

So how do you prevent this weekend from being a Ben Stiller type of experience?

Background Information. Ask your boyfriend or girlfriend to tell you about the ‘rents. They should be happy to divulge information because it’s probably pretty important to them that their parents approve of you. Talk about some of mom and dad’s interests that you could just casually bring up over dinner and definitely make sure to talk about any major red flags. For example, if your boy’s parents are strict Republicans, you might not want to crack the latest “Dub-ya” joke. Any information that can prepare you for the big day is a major plus.

The Basics. You need to decide with your boyfriend or girlfriend what you want the first meeting to be. Will it be a casual introduction in the dorm and then a double date to see Fiddler on the Roof or a nice night out downtown? Depending on the place, pick an appropriate outfit. Though your boyfriend may tell you that his parents won’t care what you’re wearing, he is not the one deciding if this new girl is good enough for their little boy. If you’re going out to dinner, leave the low-cut tops, goofy T-shirts and ripped jeans in your dorm room. Though parents will probably not be judging you on whether you are up with current fashion trends, they will notice if they can see your thong riding up or if they have to stare at a Corona hat all night.

Another basic thing to be aware of is your behavior. You should absolutely be yourself (because they will probably see the same great things in you that attracted their daughter to you), but try to be on your best behavior. Even if you forget to do it in your day-to-day life, this would be a good time to think before you act. Mothers may forget the name of the movie you saw together, but they will remember an offensive comment for years.

The Conversation. After the initial introductions, you now have a full dinner to fill with interesting conversation. Don’t sit there like the silent fourth-wheel as your boyfriend tells his parents about the first few stressful months of school. Jump into the conversation and talk about common interests between you and your boyfriend or you and his parents. Though they might seem cool, try to steer clear of potentially awkward topics until you have known them for more than an hour. Even if his dad tells a story about his frat in college, he may be uncomfortable hearing about his son’s drunken adventures in the quad on W.I.L.D.

If the waiter was the last person who has spoken in a few minutes, a good fallback topic is your family. Maybe not the stories about your neurotic aunt quite yet, but memories of family trips or your parents’ impressions of Wash. U. The folks usually like to hear about your care for your own parents. Be careful not to be fake or brown-nose, however, because his parents weren’t born yesterday. They’ll probably frown at fabricated enthusiasm more than they would at a few uncomfortable silences.

Parting Ways. When the weekend finally comes to a close, it’s important to make as good of a final impression as a first impression. Be sincere about how nice it was to finally meet them and wish them luck on whatever project they mentioned over dinner (so they know you really were listening). Let them know you are looking forward to spending more time with them. If after all your preparation you pass the test, you may just have an invitation to their house for winter break and, even better, a couple of fans to remind your girlfriend how lucky she is to have you.