About halfway through my freshman year, I was covering a Student Union meeting for Student Life. By the time the meeting ended around 12:30 a.m., I was worn out from a long day of classes and not particularly looking forward to starting my homework for the night.
Despite trying to stealthily write an essay for my Spanish class in the back corner of the meeting, my notebook was just as blank as when I had started. When I got back to my dorm and collapsed in the hallway with a circle of my friends, I could not bring myself to finish-or, really, start-any of my work; it was just too easy to sit and relax, talking with my friends about everything and nothing at the same time.
I don’t remember when I went to sleep that night or how I managed to finish my Spanish essay scribbling furiously in the hour before class, but I do remember the feeling of coming back to a place and being comfortable there. The feeling of knowing that, despite homework, exhaustion and stress, I had found a group of friends with whom I could relax.
The first week of school will be overwhelming and tiring as you meet new people, get used to new places and try to understand everything that you will need to do for the next four years. By the hundredth person you meet in the first hour of your first day on campus, it will seem impossible to remember all the names, majors and hometowns of your new acquaintances. And, realistically, it probably is; with nearly 1,300 fellow students in your class you will be hard pressed to meet all of them.
Despite all that, take comfort in the fact that you will find your niche on campus.
Whether it is on your freshman floor or in a club that you join, in class, or with a group of people you meet randomly on the basketball court, you will find a group of friends that is right for you, a group of friends that makes you feel comfortable.
One of the most daunting moments of your freshman year will be realizing that there is no formula for making friends; one of the best moments will be, like it was for me, realizing that you don’t need a formula. Go out, do what you love, and the rest will follow.
In your dorm, keep your door open (a doorstop should be one of your first purchases) and don’t hesitate to go to that meeting for the club you’ve always wanted to join but never had the chance to. Though the process will not be effortless, you will meet people who will define and shape your college experience-the people for whom you came to Washington University whether you know it yet or not.
So, for a while, don’t feel bad about forgetting a few people’s names or meeting someone for the third time. Go out and find something that speaks to you-whether that means doing community service, working with one of the University’s many cultural groups, studying for school, or writing for an amazing and award winning campus paper.
In the long run, it’s worth it.
Sam Guzik is a junior in the College of Arts & Sciences and the Editor in Chief of Student Life. He can be reached at [email protected].