Question: A bunch of my friends are going abroad next semester and I’m really worried about staying in touch and being on my own. What should I do?

Defining relationships is a tricky matter—especially in college, where there seems to be an entire spectrum of possible stages along which your romance can fall. Often it is easier to go without defining the “thing” you have with someone else; it can be an awkward conversation to have and two people can often be on different pages when the discussion does come up.

It’s tricky trying to create plans with a set group of friends and feel like you’re not being exclusive. No one wants to feel like he’s shutting someone out, and no one wants to be shut out. At the same time, it can be frustrating and feel like a breach of personal space when a friend consistently includes himself in your plans when he is not welcome.

This week on Claudia’s Counsel: “I’m new to Wash. U. How do I show that I’m likable and get people to be my friend?”

Sometimes we do fall for people who are taken by someone else, but it doesn’t mean we’re terrible people with no respect for commitment. Sometimes it just happens.