How to give a textbook blow job

L Moore | Sex Columnist

So, here goes my knowledge collected from interviewing men and women, and my observations (including those drawn from porn), which I will organize into a list of tips to be used at one’s own discretion. Remember: all men—and their penises—are different. These are not rules. Also, remember, STDs are transmitted from oral sex, too!

So…

1. Always keep the entirety of the shaft of the penis and the head covered with something, mouth or hand. As I find that not everyone is capable of deepthroating manuevers, especially when it comes to a man who is well endowed, I often find it helpful to think of blowjobs as handjob-blowjob combos; keep your left hand on the shaft in rhythm with your mouth over the head and whatever shaft you are able to keep in your mouth.

2. Mix it up, but not too much: Try and balance trying to create a unique experience for your partner (swirling of your tongue over the head, movement of your tongue down the shaft in succession, for example) with consistent rhythm that can maintain and build an orgasm.

3. This is pretty basic, but, start slow, move to intermediate pace, and finally move your tongue and mouth quickly in sync with your partner’s breathing patterns, sounds, and body language. Keeping your focus in tune not only with your technique but how your partner is responding is crucial!

4. Don’t neglect the balls! I don’t mean any “teabagging” or anything necessarily but maybe some gentle cupping. It depends on the guy, of course, and how much he trusts you. Handle when confident and handle with care.

5. CAVEATS: Keep nails short to avoid any scratching that could be caused by your multitasking activity! On that note, it’s important to remind that the penis is a gentle organ that needs TLC, not violent manipulation. A blowjob does not mean literally sucking on a penis–you don’t want to turn it into a hickey stick! Rhythmic caressing by tongue, mouth, and hand is the best way to ensure a pleasant experience.

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