A guy’s guide to oral sex

| Senior Scene Editor

According to a recent study funded by Church & Dwight Co. Inc., the maker of Trojan products, women are more likely to orgasm when oral sex, or cunnilingus, is included in foreplay. Seventy percent of women aged 20 to 24 reported receiving oral sex during sex—so guys, if you’re not going down on your girl, you’re not measuring up to the majority of women’s sexual experiences.

If a lack of knowledge or experience is what’s holding you back, read this step-by-step guide, and don’t give yourself any more excuses for not getting down and dirty.

1. Start slow
Keep her wanting more by starting with slow, deliberate movements. She’ll love the anticipation—and it will certainly pay off in the end. Women like to be teased, so make sure not to get carried away and keep it light and playful to start. Try running your tongue along the inside of her upper thigh right next to the vaginal area, without actually touching it. It will make her crave more action.

2. Play with pressure
Not only is the tongue the strongest muscle in the human body, but guys, you also have a lot more control over your tongue than you do over your penis, allowing you to apply direct pressure to specific parts of the vagina. It’s crucial to vary the pressure of your tongue once you finally move toward your target. Use a broad, flat tongue to fully cover the vagina—this will apply gentle titillating pressure and will help lube up the area with saliva. For more intense pressure of specific arousal spots, like the clitoris, use a firm pointed tongue to circle and flick.

3. The clitoris is key
One mistake many guys make time and time again is that they often assume oral sex is virtually the same thing as standard intercourse. DO NOT simply thrust your tongue in and out of the vagina as you would with your penis. The tongue does not provide enough friction and is not long or thick enough to make this pleasurable. In general, stick to areas that are easier to access—like the clitoris. The clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone and, when stimulated correctly, leads to mind-blowing orgasms. Tease her for a while by lightly circling it with your tongue. Then try taking it into your mouth and gently sucking on it while softly flicking your tongue over the area—almost like a French kiss.

4. Get handsy
Don’t ignore your hands while going down on your girl—always keep them moving. A variety of textures and pressures is important since there’s only so much your tongue can do on its own. Since we’ve already established that it’s not your tongue’s job to do any penetration during oral sex, try saving this task for your fingers. While performing the above techniques on her clitoris, use your hands to either apply pressure to her inner thighs in a massaging motion, which also helps hold her legs apart, or use them to thrust a few fingers into the vagina, providing her with more complete stimulation.

5. Try some tricks
Aside from using your hands and tongue, there are some tricks you can use to make oral sex even more exciting. For example, using mentholated mints or mouthwash before performing oral sex can heighten the pleasure. When your breath is fresh and tingly from a strong mint, your partner will feel the tingling sensation along her vaginal lips and clitoris. You could also try using warming or cooling lubricants or scented massage oils to arouse your girl and amp up the excitement.

So for those of you who have never ventured down south in the bedroom, get over yourselves—this is an essential part of pleasing your woman. Keep these few tips in mind, and she won’t be able to get enough of you.

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