Dan Daranciang
Protesters had been standing in the cold for nearly nine hours when a man in a massive, red, glitter-covered Mardi Gras hat drove by. Slowing down in front of the First Evangelical Free Church, where the demonstrators were stationed, he gave them a piece of his mind before driving on.
“Hey,” said one protester. “Was that guy in a red-sequined hat calling us queer?”
Moments like these were the highlights of “Love Needs No Cure,” the peaceful protest that took place on Saturday, when Focus on the Family held its traveling “Love Won Out” conference in the suburbs of west St. Louis County. The all-day conference focused on Exodus, an organization that promotes therapy as a cure for homosexuality.
Coming from 28 states, 1,780 attendees made this conference the largest of the 37 held so far in the U.S., according to the event’s organizers. Families, ministers and gay people both averse to and immersed in the therapy process came from as far as Hawaii to hear testimonies of former gays and a speech by Bill Maier, a psychologist and Focus on Family’s vice president.
Roadside Rally
While the conference attendees were inside, protesters braved cold temperatures and the wind, which one protester dubbed the “real gay basher” as it ripped his sign in half.
For St. Louis resident Steve Houldsworth, who helped with security during the protest, standing in the cold starting at 5:45 a.m. was worth it, given the importance of the protesters’ message.
“I believe that the statements being made in the conference about medical and scientific evidence that homosexuality is a disease are false,” said Houldsworth. “I’m standing for truth in the face of that lie. Homosexuality is a variation of normal and not a disease.”
Nearby, Adam Rosen was representing Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG), a national organization that provides support and education for families and friends of gays and lesbians. His sign, he explained, carried “one of the most defiant” messages: “Be who U R – there are no exceptions to God’s love.”
“I think this is what this whole misunderstanding is all about,” said Rosen about his sign. “It’s interesting to see the different mind-states that people are in as they’re driving by. This sign seemed to get a lot of attention. People [driving by] have been more supportive than I’d imagined or assumed, gauging by the honking.”
Most of the drivers on Carman Road that day seemed to be supportive of the protesters and their signs bearing rainbow-colored messages like “God made me Gay!” and “You can’t cure what God created!” When the driver of a Harley Davidson motorcycle wearing an American Flag bandana saluted the protesters, the crowd erupted in cheers.
Some of the conference attendees were also supportive of the protesters even though they didn’t agree with their message, providing coffee and sandwiches to the protesters who had arrived before the church doors opened at 7 a.m.
Others, however, were more vocal about their disapproval of the protest. Protester Rob Morgan recalled a particularly memorable encounter that had taken place at 7:30 that morning.
“This woman slowed down in her car,” said Morgan. “And it was really interesting. She started repeating, ‘God bless you, God bless you, God bless you.’ And then she started talking in tongues.”
Leading a chant of “Hey Hey! Ho Ho! Homophobia’s got to go!” were 16-year-old Danny Blake and his friends from Parkway West High School.
Interacting with some of the youths who may have been at the conference against their will was an experience Blake found memorable.
“The greatest part was when [the conference attendees] were going out to lunch, and this guy who was in the church came out and joined us,” said Blake. “This one kid, his mom had offered him steak and beer if he went [to the conference]. It’s a good feeling that not everyone in there is following what they’re preaching.”
Mackenzie Holt, a 10-year-old, was proud to represent her generation at the protest, holding a sign that read “Gay Parents Rock!”
“I just want to tell everyone that it’s okay to be gay,” said Holt. “They don’t have to change who they are.no one should judge a book by it’s cover, should they?”
Mackenzie’s mother, Stacy Holt, had debated whether or not to bring Mackenzie and her other daughter, four-year-old Meghan, to the protest.
“I struggled a little bit at first,” said Holt. “I took the time to get online and research Exodus. What really concerned me was…that the suicide rate of youths who go through these programs is really high, because they don’t have the support they need. So I thought it was really important for my kids to see this.”
Despite the excitement in the usually quiet neighborhood that day, police on the scene reported no problems.
“It’s been peaceful,” said Officer Josh Niewoehner of the City of Manchester Police Department. “A few people [in the neighborhood] have asked what’s going on. [Their responses] go both ways. Some think it’s okay, others might be a little bit angry about the noise. But in general, there haven’t been too many complaints.”
The Wash. U. caravan arrives
At 4:30, the arrival of two buses carrying Washington University students energized the crowd. Other protesters rushed to hand signs to students who hadn’t brought their own.
“Flame on!” junior Jacob Till shouted as cars driving by honked in support. “I yell that at people randomly,” he explained.
“I’m really disturbed,” said freshman Julia Baskin. “I really only see this stuff on TV. I’ve never actually looked someone in the eye who is intolerant like this.And yeah, I’m a little afraid of what [the convention attendees] are thinking of me.”
Sophomore Rachel Tepper imagined that “[the conference attendees] probably think that we are misguided,” because they “are very passionate about what they believe.”
But many students wouldn’t let their adversaries’ passion weaken their own enthusiasm.
“We need to get the word out that it’s okay to be gay,” said freshman Shana Zaia. “Don’t let these people change you!”
Zaia was impressed by the protest’s peaceful and respectful tone.
“There’s no shouting, no egging,” said Zaia. “It seems like they really respect us.”
Senior Ryan Mackin had not planned on attending the protest. But after seeing buses on the South 40, he couldn’t resist boarding himself.
“I like protests,” said Mackin. “I just like that it’s a whole group coming together and shedding a positive light on a negative matter. I have friends who have come out, and I think it’s really important to support that. If I were in their position, I’d expect the same thing from people.”
Before being bussed to the church, some of the participants had attended a teach-in at Ursa’s, which featured a dialogue led by Washington University psychologists about the dangers of gay therapy as well as discussions about effective methods of peaceful protests.
Junior Tom Giarla, co-president of Pride Alliance, said that the event was a success and drew about 50 attendees.
“[The teach-in] was great,” said Giarla. “It was really informative and really important, because I don’t think people our age know much about the ex-gay movement.and I think [the protest is] a good way to show that Wash. U. is engaged in the community.”
The church doors open
At 5:15, the end of the conference brought the attendees back into contact with the protesters, who continued chanting as cars drove off.
As she left the church, Suzie Crowdus was still inspired by the conference’s speakers.
“I love every bit of it. It was very encouraging,” said Crowdus. “I was energized by it. I learned that people need Christ.”
Jason Jordan of Fulton, Mo., was shocked by the statistics presented at the conference.
“The statistics on the suicide rate in the gay and lesbian community were troubling,” said Jordan. “We need to love and respect them and give the message of Christ to them.”
Charles Finley of Glen Ellyn, IL, appreciated the research behind the conference.
“I would say the conference gave a very balanced approach,” said Finley. “I appreciated the openness. People were able to ask any kind of question. It was good to learn ways to help others get a healthy view of relationships and family.”
Maureen Jordan, who got her master’s degree in social work from Washington University in 2000, disagreed that the conference presented valid research.
“The use of statistics was very poor, but that’s what I’d expect from a Love Won Out conference,” said Jordan. “They don’t know what’s good research and that’s the problem. What they present is not the truth, but they present it as scientific truth. But it’s not what research shows, and it can’t stand up to scientific rigor.”
For Daniel Squires of Kansas City, the conference was especially meaningful. He regards himself as formerly gay and is working to change through the therapy provided by organizations like Exodus.
“[The conference] was amazing to me coming from the gay community,” said Squires. “There’s a small group of gay people trying to change. It’s encouraging. It was a good experience. The inspiration [to change] was already there, and this gave me the inspiration to stick to it.”
Randy Shuler, pastor of a southern Baptist church, Chesterfield Community Church, attended the convention.
“There was no hatred there,” said Shuler. “I was very impressed with the tone and the compassion.”
One of the objectives of the conference series is to educate about the gay and lesbian lifestyle, Shuler explained.
“If we don’t agree with the lifestyle that’s one thing, but it’s another to say that you don’t understand it. For those that are coming out of the lifestyle, for parents, for everyone, it’s awful confusing.”
Although Shuler acknowledged that the protesters are “passionate about their cause,” he guessed that many are uninformed.
“Many of them are there because someone told them to be there, and [they] don’t really understand what it is they’re pushing,” said Shuler. “You can just tell there wasn’t much thought that went into [the signs].”
When asked how he would confront one of the homosexual protesters, Shuler was unsure.
“I guess I’d ask them how they’re doing,” said Shuler. “Is [the homosexual lifestyle] working for them?.If they think it’s working for them at the moment, I’m not the one to talk to them. But there are a lot people that are ready to leave what they’ve gotten themselves into. The conference was very good about saying if you’re ready, if you want more information.then we can help.”
Shuler, who said he has “seen Christ liberate people from a lot of different things,” made clear that the process is “very complex.”
“You don’t just pray one prayer and leave it all behind,” said Shuler. “It’s a journey.Christ is the answer – it sounds like such a clich‚, but it’s the truth. Christ is alive.”