A few weeks ago, I wrote about what happens when you find yourself infatuated with that certain dreamy bartender. This week, I started thinking about personal fitness, and just how “personal” personal training can actually be. I admit, I have had a crush on a personal trainer at one point in my life, so I decided to do some research to find out how common this is.
Upon browsing the web, I found many personal anecdotes on different help boards from people writing for advice about this dilemma. The funniest one I found involved a guy writing about how he had a “weird gay crush” on his male trainer, even though he had a steady girlfriend.
It seems like a decent number of people have been interested in their trainers, so how do we ask these trainers out for a date? How do we even know if they are allowed to date clients? And how do we know whether they are just being nice and flirtatious because we’re their clients, or if they actually dig us? After all, personal training often involves the trainer being very touchy-feely with the client, so how does one know whether this body contact is suggestive or just part of the trainer’s job?
I spoke recently with a classmate of mine who works out at the same gym as me about a very cute new trainer. I asked her about this new trainer and if she worked with him. She replied no, but she then told me that her other friend who works out at the gym had been asked out on a date by the attractive new trainer.
This got me wondering: how does one get noticed by a cute trainer at the gym when most people come off the treadmill drenched in sweat, looking less than perfect? Personally, I’m afraid to even run into friends while working out, my soaking T-shirt sticking to my body and my hair a curly disaster—wow, that probably just really helped my attractiveness factor.
A helpful tip, if you have a crush on that personal trainer, is to ask around about him or her. If you don’t actually train with that trainer, ask about him to friends who do. If you train with a different trainer, work up the courage to ask about the trainer, since she might know a thing or two about trainer co-workers. And finally, if you can, try to find out about the gym’s policies. Some gyms forbid trainers to become personal with their clients, meaning they ban romantic involvement. While your club’s policies may be difficult to find out, you can start by flashing that cute trainer a smile while you walk from the elliptical to the free weights.
What I sometimes do after I have been running is go into the restroom and take a minute or two to fix my hair, wipe the sweat off my face, etc. While towels are designed for this, I like to take it a step further in the privacy of a bathroom so I can try to look somewhat presentable when I see that cute trainer again. While this may sound weird, and it may actually be weird, I think it definitely helps to boost your self-confidence by knowing that your hair and face resemble their most beauteous potential.
If you’re lucky enough to train with that cute trainer, or if you develop a crush on your own trainer (as this is common due to the often personal involvement and touchy-feeliness involved while working out), try to detect flirtatious signals. With practice, you’ll be able to distinguish between your trainer just being friendly and making conversation and definite signals of flirtation and physical attraction. If you have the courage, ask your trainer about his or her love life, or bring up your own—or lack thereof like mine—in hopes that your trainer will respond with something about his or her own love life.
At the end of the day, all you can do is, literally, sweat it out and hope for the best. And if something romantic doesn’t work out between you and your trainer, you can always just go for that cute bartender.
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