Who gets hornier after drinking, guys or girls?

That’s like asking who likes ice cream more! Drinking doesn’t make you horny, but it does affect your judgment and lower your inhibitions. When you are drinking, you might be more likely to engage in behaviors that you wouldn’t when sober. Maybe hooking up with someone you never would have looked at twice sober? Sound familiar? At least one out of five college students abandon safer sex practices when they’re drunk, even if they do protect themselves when they’re sober. Even if you’re usually careful, you may wind up not using any protection, like a condom. According to factsontap.org, a leading website on alcohol and your college experience, as many as 70% of college students admit to having engaged in sexual activity primarily as a result of being under the influence of alcohol, or to having sex they wouldn’t have had if they had been sober.

Last week you talked about sleeping over with your boyfriend. I am kind of on the other side – I’m freaked about sleeping over in anyone’s bed. I don’t want a guy to see me with bad breath and messed up hair and stuff. Is that normal?

It’s totally normal to feel weird about sleeping over at someone else’s place. Is it just that you don’t want to deal with the potential sexual pressure that comes with sleeping over in someone else’s bed or is it more to do with your appearance?

Being in someone else’s space, much less their bed, may make you feel like you’re not totally in control. It’s okay to keep things out of your partner’s bedroom and in a more neutral location. If you have developed a relationship with a specific guy, you might feel more comfortable about his respecting your wishes and may be able to hang in his room. On the other hand, if you are sketched out from the thought of spending the night in a somewhat random hookup’s bed, that’s very normal as well! Random hook-ups are not safe sexually, and emotionally they probably aren’t going to do much for you either.

If your concern is purely aesthetic, that’s normal, but it might mean that emotionally you’re not quite ready for sleepovers. If you are in a relationship with someone you trust and care about, over time you might feel differently about him seeing you in the morning, complete with messy hair and wicked breath. It may take some getting used to, and some quick trips to the bathroom to brush your teeth when you first wake up, but eventually – when you are ready – it won’t seem strange at all to not worry about those things.

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