Do men who experience baldness on their head eventually experience baldness “down there”?

As we get older, everyone’s hair thins. Even down there. But most people don’t end up “bald.” Over time, however, you can expect what hair remains to turn grey or even white. Because the amount of pubic hair lessens over time and the color lightens, it could appear as if one were “balding.” Topical products that are designed to stimulate hair growth on your head are not meant to be used for your genital region. If you are feeling like your sparsely-populated pubes are a problem, please consult with a doctor before trying to stimulate Chia Pet-like growth on some of your most sensitive skin!

My girlfriend won’t take off any of her clothes unless it is totally dark. What is wrong with her?

Nothing is necessarily “wrong” with her. It’s possible that your girlfriend is new to dating and relationships, and may not be as comfortable as you are with aspects of being intimate. She may be modest about her body and not as at ease as you are with being undressed. Try slowing things down and give her a chance to feel more relaxed sharing her body with you.

It’s also possible that she doesn’t feel very confident or comfortable with her body. The dark allows her to hide and prevents you from really seeing her. It’s going to be difficult for her to get much pleasure from your physical relationship if she feels uncomfortable with her own body.

Try to work on ways to help her feel better about her body. Talk with her about why she feels more comfortable being in the dark. Don’t be frustrated if after you tell her how beautiful you think she looks, she still feels the need to hide. Her shyness about her body has little, if anything, to do with you.

Also, men typically like to “see” what’s going on, while for women it’s usually more about emotions and what’s in their heads. You might try explaining that you really like seeing her body while you’re touching it. Help her to understand that for you it’s about being intimate, not just seeing her naked.

Doing something not specifically sexual, like giving her a back massage, could potentially help to ease some of her discomfort. If she’s willing to take off her shirt with the light on, she could lay on her stomach while you massage her back. Helping her to feel more comfortable with you, in a non-sexual situation where she’s not fully exposed, may be worth trying.

Questions?

How many times have you had a question about your body or your health that you felt weird asking a friend or someone older? Especially when it’s about sex? Jill Ringold, who received her master’s degree in Public Health and is a certified health education specialist, is the health educator in the Office of Health Promotion and Wellness. And she’s here to help answer those questions that you really want to ask. If you want to submit a question, please send it to health@studlife.com or via our anonymous portal on the Student Life website (www.studlife.com).

 Print This Post

This entry was posted on Friday, January 30th, 2004 at 12:00 pm and is filed under Cadenza. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.